Emotional Intelligence- The Webinar

Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to blend thinking and feeling to make optimal decisions — which is key to having a successful relationship with yourself and others. To provide a practical and simple way to learn and practice emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence includes 3 aspects: Know yourself, Choose yourself, Give yourself.

Know yourself, is knowing what you are feeling, recognizing your feelings and emotions, and understanding what your are feeling. You can perceive your emotions through understanding nonverbal signals such as body language and facial expressions. This allows you to collect data and information. Knowing yourself is knowing your strengths and challenges, knowing what you are doing, what you want, and what to change.

Choose yourself, is thinking about the options you have, and evaluating the costs and the benefits of your choices. It also means doing the things you mean to do, and want to do, and not do what you are expected to do or doing what others are doing And being able to know how to take action, and how to have influence on yourself and onto others.

Give yourself, is doing what you truly want. When you know yourself, the weaknesses, the strengths, you are able to think clearly of your options and weigh their advantages and consequences to be able to choose what your truly want from different options. You will have a clear vision and you will be able to stay focused on why you are doing what you want, and to be able to respond to new things the way you want.

   Experience is a great source of learning, and as we experience different things in our lives. Our thinking and evaluation of things change. When we are faced with a question, there is no one true answer, there is not only one way. As they described it in a picture of a maze, NO way is THE way. There was a quote: "It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question". It is not the answer to the question that enlighten us, it is the path, the journey we travel to try to discover the "correct" answer. We are living our lives to learn from them, if we don't learn from our experiences there is no sense to why we are living. Whatever we learn, we have to reflect about it. Reflecting, is thinking about it, how it affects us, what are the good things about it and what are the bad things. Reflecting after an experience is thinking about what you did, and what you didn't do; about what you should have done, and about what you shouldn't have done. Reflecting on yourself, and on the experience, helps you get closer to your feelings and to your emotions, and to realize why you did so when you did it, and it gives you a chance for improvement.

   What we feel on the inside is much more complex, complicated, and deeper that we think. They visualized it as an iceberg. An iceberg shows only 9% of its ice above water, while underwater the percentage of the ice is 91%. This means how we feel or react has a deeper meaning than we might think, that lead us to do so.

   They also talked about the importance of questioning. Questions are important for learning. They can be a very powerful weapon to see/realize insight and creativity. Questions motivate fresh thinking, challenging assumptions, and can lead us to the future. Therefore, questions should be used in our lives, as to help us rethink about certain situations: why did we act in this way? What should I work on in improving myself? These are just a few and simple questions, that give you a fresh mentality about the experiences you lived in order to change yourself and eventually improve yourself, to better understand your feelings and emotions and to better have control of them.

  At the core, emotional intelligence is something you should become and be able to apply on yourself.  By being more emotionally intelligent, smarter with feelings, you will more accurately recognize emotions in yourself and others.  This data will help you make decisions and craft effective solutions to the puzzling challenges you face each day.